Q: “How can I get the girls?”
A: “Oh, that’s easy! Just be yourself!“
Probably the most cliched advice you have heard in your life. But you can’t say it’s totally wrong.
Because it is true.
It’s just that most people have heeded it literally, without giving it any second thoughts.
“Keep on waiting, that right person for you will appear someday!”
“Just be yourself, because someday a girl will like you for who you are!”
If you’ve followed what they’ve said exactly, you are only digging your own grave.
Think about it: If “Just be yourself” works, then you wouldn’t be in this situation now. After all, you HAD been yourself for the past X years, haven’t you?
Either the information is wrong, or you have misread it some way. It couldn’t be the former, since it has been validated by so many others.
This begs the question: What does “Just Be Yourself” REALLY mean?
That’s right, self-improvement. But isn’t that a totally different meaning from “Just Be Yourself”?
You see, “Just Being Yourself” is not about simply being the same old you.
It’s about becoming the ‘you’ that you really wanted to be.
If you’ve always wanted rippling muscles, hit the gym.
If you’ve always wanted to sing like a pro, take up classes.
If you’ve always wanted to be slim, start exercising.
If you’ve always wanted to be a confident guy, learn how to.
The logic is simple: If you want something good, you have to be qualified first.
Let’s look at women: Do you think women followed the “Just Be Yourself” rule? You decide.
– They spent hours making their hair, applying make-up, pampering their skin before going out.
– They spent thousands of dollars on accessories, clothes, shoes, bags, make-up, diet pills and anything they can find in order to make themselves attractive.
– They read up on women’s magazines that analyses men inside out, with tips on how to attract them.
You see, women had been self-improving since puberty.
While we were having eraser fights, collecting Dragonball Z trading cards,
discovering the secret of internet porn, watching Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles in malay subtitles on TV2, and burning insects, girls were busy absorbing information from women’s magazines.
But why did they want to self-improve at such a young age?
Because they wanted something good (i.e. handsome guy, slimmer body, beautiful hair, better skin, prettier face, etc.) and they had to work for it.
That pretty girl in your class didn’t become pretty by ‘just being herself.’ She went through alot of hard work before becoming attractive. Don’t forget, every girl had gone through an ‘ugly duckling’ period before.
You are still in the ‘ugly duckling’ period. It’s now your choice to decide whether you want to become a handsome cob, or live comfortably as an ugly duckling.
P.S. For the ignorant, a cob is a male swan.