Helping out at XQ’s wedding last week was a great eye-opener, as it was my first time being a ‘brother’ at a wedding.
I have since concluded that:
- The games which prelude the fetching of the bride are in essence a ritualised form of degradation for the groom and his mates. Basically, everything done on that morning serves as an affirmation that yes the groom will go through hell to get to the bride, and that includes doing everything and anything. Which of course, gives the ladies a great opportunity to concoct senseless mini-games for the guys. I’d like to see a reverse situation where the ladies are put through similar antics. Equality of the sexes for once? Or better, games where the bride and groom are made to go through gruelling stuff together. After all, isn’t marriage about bonding in the first place?
- Being a ‘brother’ = you are going to be one busy fellow, and probably wouldn’t get to enjoy much of the wedding dinner. (Then again, the happy couple get to eat even less.) Of course, you’re helping a buddy in need and sharing his joy at a lifechanging moment.
If anything, this experience has strengthened my belief that I should do my utmost not get married (if ever) in SG. A great deal of hassle, not being able to enjoy myself at all, and placing a great deal of inconvenience and unneeded suffering on my buddies even. If I ever need to bond with them, we’ll go out and get drunk or something; there’s got to be an easier way to forge relationships.
All in all, the purpose = public display?
Thanks, but I’ll pass.