Coming to the end of a road.


I thought about it really hard for months, and finally made up my mind.

It’s time to quit and stop full-time work for a while.

Big decision I know, why though?

It’s all about bub
We have a big reason to begin with. A six month reason who babbles in my ear at 0600hrs every day, laughs madly whenever I toss her in the air and is just learning how to stand on her own two wobbly feet.

Who shall have this?
Elly is still kind of young to be sent to child care right now. After V’s mum returns home, there is no one else left for the task. Stan’s working, plus it’s not his child to begin with. V’s working, I’m working so everyone’s working.

Taking into consideration the fact that V has always been more of a career-minded individual while I’m more of a go with the flow kind, it is really a natural decision that I do this instead.

There is also the thought that I am sort of outsourcing my kiddo’s growing time to someone else. There are admittedly a ton of unsavoury tasks I would love to pile onto someone else’s capable hands, but some things just should not be outsourced. Rearing my child is one of them.

A juggling act, perhaps?
In an ideal world, I would work from home while taking care of Elly. The niggling little wrench in the works is that my job requires site visits at random intervals, something I will not be able to commit to once I begin my “job” as a full-time parent. It is unfair that I reap the perks of working from home, while someone less qualified to do the work bears the brunt of my decision and gets saddled with more shit on a 24/7/365 standby shift.

Ridiculous costs
Believe it or not, child care costs are exhorbitant, high enough to pay for a one bedroom apartment’s rental in the city. Crazy isn’t it? I would much rather spend my time taking care of Elly than watch half my paycheck make its way into someone else’s pocket.

Some people say, you can never have enough money. I agree wholeheartedly on this. If you can never have enough, why put all your energy into the ratrace and forgo your kid’s childhood? Some things can never be remade, and we are not exactly starving on the streets right now. All it takes is better budgeting, and we should still be able to get by. Quality of life is not always measured by income, and the endless race to “give our kids a better living than what we had” is a cycle in materialism. It’s the spiritual component that needs to be improved, not the monetary.

It has been a good run in the last few years with the company, and I have honestly learnt a lot. Not to mention the great colleagues, and my boss to whom I owe a big debt for the 457. It is going to be odd, to divest myself of the routine that has become a part of life for the past four years.

So, the transition into a SAHD (Stay At Home Dad) is happening in August. All these aside, I do hope to keep working on something interesting on the side. There are a few opportunities in the works now, but I’m not holding my breath yet.

To all my dear friends and readers, should you need any help on stuff that I could advise on, talk to me. Facebook, Twitter, anything is fine. You could drop a comment here too.

Remember: advice is free, so ask away. Always happy to help and offer an opinion or two!


6 thoughts on “Coming to the end of a road.

  1. Kein, I don’t know many Dads who are willing to step up for their children this way, so I really applaud your decision. I’m sure you and baby will create many happy memories together. cheers.


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