Have to admit, I wasn’t exactly the most independent person around when I first left in ’07. Living at home for twenty-odd years does that to you. Five years of living in our own place helped, but it still was rough when I became a dad, more so when I became a SAHD.
Suddenly, I’m expected to be a nurse, educator and homemaker, all rolled in one. And to do a good job while I’m at it. I hadn’t the foggiest idea on things to be honest. I remember the first day at home. I took a deep breath and thought: “Woah, now I’m really in charge. Better not fcuk it up.”
Some things I have learnt over the past year:
- Retail is evil, don’t buy everything you see. Many are either overpriced, optional or unnecessary. Possibly all of the three.
- First-hand clothes are overrated. Used items from baby markets or family and friends are the best way to go. Same rule applies to toys.
- TV, smart phones and tablets are tools to be used only in moderation or desperation. Leaving your kid to these modes of entertainment for extended periods = laziness on your part, and a bad habit on their part.
- Be observant and ready to learn about your kid: it’s not a one-way street where you stuff your “wisdom” down his throat.
- Stay positive and keep that smile on. Your kid takes a cue from you, showing a grumpy face doesn’t help. (No shit, this makes a real difference.)
- Sleep is worth its weight in gold when you are a full-time parent.
- Don’t forget about who you are, bub is priority but you have to get in some me time as well.
- Show respect to friends: do not yak incessantly about parenthood in front of them, especially those who do not have kids. Not everyone is interested in your kid’s eating habits and quirky mannerisms.
- Parenthood is not a chore, have fun! It’s probably the most two-way journey ever – frustrating as hell at times, but just so joyful otherwise.
Merry Christmas to everyone, stay cheerful and positive in the new year ahead.